How to Talk to a 10 Year Old Boy About Puberty

How to Talk to a 10 Year Old Boy About Puberty? Pretty hard to discuss, right! He’s experiencing a lot of upheavals and doesn’t know how to deal with them. You want to make sure you’re there for him as best you can, but how do you talk about something so private? This blog post gives some great tips on discussing puberty with your son in a comfortable and informative way. So up your parenting levels by going through our ideas!

What is puberty in boys?

Puberty is a period of significant physical and psychological changes in boys. It usually starts between the ages of 10-14, but it can begin as early as nine years old or later than 15. The first signs of puberty are an increased growth rate (which eventually slows down) and body hair development on the face and pubic area.

At this point, a boy will also develop oily skin, acne breakouts, more facial hair, deeper voice, and the testicles may grow more prominent than before. A boy’s penis will also lengthen during this time, and he will soon be able to ejaculate semen. His libido level also increases gradually.

Tips on how to address these issues

  • Work with the child to understand what’s happening. This is an excellent time to make sure they know that puberty has nothing to do with how much or how little someone eats, if they are active or not, their grades in school, etc. Puberty happens when our bodies start making hormones on their own. These hormones affect many different parts of our body – including growth spurts (height), breast development for girls, voice changes for boys, among other things.
  • Once you understand why this change is occurring, it will be easier to discuss questions your son may have, such as “What will my voice sound like when I get older?”. Be prepared to answer his questions honestly but don’t overwhelm him with too many details.
  • Talk about appropriate hygiene and keep yourself educated on the topic (i.e., is it normal for a child to have body odor or not at this age?). If you are uncomfortable discussing these issues, then, by all means, seek out help from your doctor, nurse practitioner, etc. There is no reason why parents should feel embarrassed talking to their children about puberty – they need the correct information!

Answer to some commonly asked questions by boys about puberty

“Why are some people making fun of my voice?”

Your son’s voice may be experiencing a drastic change recently due to puberty. You need to explain to him that this is a normal part of puberty and will pass soon.

Voice change can happen during puberty as well, including some boys developing a deeper voice for themselves. There is nothing wrong with that, but you need to explain this physical aspect of puberty to your son so they don’t feel embarrassed or self-conscious about speaking up in front of people who haven’t met him yet (e.g., new classmates). It’s best not to force them to talk to people they haven’t met yet until their voice changes are complete.

“Why do I have hair on my face?”

Hair growth can occur in different parts of your son’s body due to changes during puberty, including some places where you didn’t expect, like their face or back. Hair growth on your boy’s face may be accompanied by acne breakouts around their cheeks, nose, forehead, etc.

Which could make them self-conscious about talking to people they haven’t met yet or even looking at themselves in the mirror for extended durations (which isn’t good).

“What changes are happening in my body?”

Puberty usually starts around ten for boys, so that they may be experiencing some physical changes already. It would help if you educated them about what changes are happening in their body and why.

Some of the most common questions they may ask to include:

Why am I getting taller?”  

Puberty is also accompanied by growth spurts that make them appear taller than before or seem like having grown overnight, even if it isn’t true.

Any important questions regarding genitals are generally not asked, but you need to approach this topic carefully if they do. Penis can be one of the most embarrassing parts during puberty, especially for boys who don’t know how to handle it well or those who tend to act foolishly around girls.

Your son may start wondering why his genitals look different than before and what this means for him in the future regarding having kids/getting married, family, sex, etc.

So please make sure you address these concerns properly because any misinformation given by us will only confuse them more or cause anxiety later on when he finds out that was incorrect information which could have been easily prevented with proper education.

Questions surrounding “wet dreams”

Wet dreams or nocturnal erections will start to happen when puberty hits. Your son may or may not discuss this with you( in most cases, they don’t). But it is your responsibility to make them understand that such changes will happen & there is no need to worry.

These are part of the process & unnaturally interfering with them is not something they should do. Tread carefully with these matters & take them into confidence. You may take the help of your husband & ask him to make sure he discusses this.


In conclusion, puberty is a natural process that will happen to all boys in time. Your son needs to know he can talk to you about anything and everything related to his body changes. Make sure you have an open dialogue with your child about what they’re feeling and their understanding of how hormones work to help them feel more comfortable during this time. Be sure not to make him feel embarrassed or ashamed of any questions he may have.

Because it might lead to more severe issues later on when puberty arrives with development stages such as wet dreams and a growing desire. If your child needs help understanding what their changing body means, contact your nearby child specialist.

Ida Sorenson